Why Dad’s Side of the Family Tends to Miss Out

throw0101b | 15 points | 2yr ago | www.theatlantic.com

lockhouse|2yr ago

I think modern American society puts lower value on Dads in general. Unless the mom is in prison, she will probably get custody. It is just assumed that it will be better for the kids to spend more time around their mother. Look at nearly all family TV shows and movies…Dad’s a bumbling idiot always screwing up and Mom comes to the rescue.

andromeduck|2yr ago

It used to be the exact opposite until a prominent journalist got burned and made it her mission to flip the problem instead of fixing it. Originally the presumptuon was for children under 7 but eventually got extended to 16.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tender_years_doctrine

moi2388|2yr ago

Even though funnily enough not having a father is related to more issues later in life than not having a mother. Also, 90% of all child abuse is done by the mother.. but yeah..

ntlk|2yr ago

Do you have a reference for the 90% stat?

prepend|2yr ago

Id like the reference as well (assuming Another Brick in the Wall Part 2 isn’t sufficient).

This seems reasonable to me given my own experience but makes me doubt it more without some evidence to support my tendency.

I’ve googled this in the past and the best I could find is that in the US a little more than half of alleged child abuse is perpetrated by women [0] but I think this is challenging to measure accurately. I think most abuse isn’t reported and so crime stats aren’t suitable to answer the question.

There’s some other chatter about getting this number up to 70% [1] but haven’t spent the time to review all the sources and fix an actual percentage in my mind.

[0] https://www.statista.com/statistics/418470/number-of-perpetr...

[1] https://childprotectionresource.online/mothers-are-more-like...

shreyansh_k|2yr ago

I think there is strong observation bias here. This might be true for Americans... And maybe even Westerners, but in Asian countries, especially South Asia, people are more close with the paternal side of the family.

For example: myself, a sample of n=1, I'm more involved with my paternal family then the maternal side of the family